What is your understanding of spiritual maturity? Whenever I inquire about this, I receive diverse responses.

A Baby Boomer I asked said it meant going to church, donating to charities, studying the Bible, and following the Ten Commandments.

When I asked a Gen Z client, she said it meant minding your own business and not caring what others think of you because it is none of your business what they think. She also said she was a Wiccan and didn’t believe in wishing negative energy on others, because she knew it would only come back to her if she did.

At a gathering, I spoke with four individuals who were in their 30s and 40s and accompanied by a young teenager. Surprisingly, despite having varied perspectives, they unanimously believed that establishing healthy boundaries with loved ones is a sign of spiritual maturity and essential for one’s mental and spiritual health. To illustrate, a woman shared that severing ties with a particular friend prevented her from reaching an emotional breaking point.

“I simply couldn’t tolerate the manner in which she treated me. I used to invest significant time and energy worrying about her words and actions. I constantly overanalyzed every harmful encounter with her, and our alleged friendship had a negative impact on my mental well-being,” she described. “Therefore, in my opinion, attaining spiritual maturity entails distancing oneself from individuals who drag you down.”

Yesterday I was clever, so I wanted to change the world. Today I am wise, so I am changing myself ~ Rumi

I completely agree. In my perspective, if an individual persists in insulting you, breaking your trust, or causing you emotional harm, it indicates their lack of spiritual growth. Spiritual maturity entails not just having goodwill towards others and avoiding desires for their failure, but actively working towards assisting and encouraging those around us. Personally, spiritual maturity involves ongoing growth, retaining what benefits you and letting go of what does not.

Most of all, spiritual maturity for me means recognizing that I am a soul, a spiritual being having an earthly experience in a physical body, and that this comes with a certain karmic responsibility and a divine duty to myself, others, and the planet we inhabit.

I also loved what my guides made me aware of, that the animal kingdom and Mother Nature have much to teach us about true spiritual maturity. We can learn a great deal about spiritual maturity simply by spending time with our pets. Our sweet furry companions are much wiser and more spiritually aware than many people realize.

I think the most important thing to understand is that spiritual maturity is a journey, not a destination. It is an ongoing process of deepening our spiritual awareness, wisdom and understanding. It’s not just about accumulating mystical knowledge or following certain esoteric practices.

Spiritual maturity is not dependent on age, knowledge, education, or life experience, much like how there are elderly individuals who act immaturely and wise teenagers. I have encountered individuals who have dedicated years to studying spirituality, exploring different religions, and engaging in esoteric practices, yet they still lack spiritual wisdom and maturity. It is not measured by the extent of one’s knowledge or beliefs, but rather by their character and actions.

Thomas Merton believes that the spiritual life does not separate us from the world, but rather guides us to delve deeper into it.

Spiritual maturity is about profound inner transformation and personal growth in one’s relationship to the Divine, to oneself, to others, and to the world. This process involves the following key aspects:

Self-Awareness & Self-Control: Recognizing our own imperfections, emotions, and behaviors and striving to manage them constructively. We must cultivate spiritual virtues and personal values such as patience, humility, compassion, and temperance.

A developed spiritual life is marked by a strong and unshakable trust or certainty in individual beliefs that directs your thoughts and behaviors, even when confronted with tough obstacles and uncertainties.

Releasing and letting go: This concept does not imply being alone or apathetic, but rather, having the capacity to be internally unfettered by attachment to physical possessions, outcomes, or even one’s own pride. It involves relinquishing what does not benefit you and refraining from holding onto ideas and belongings that may bring harm to yourself or others.

Growth & Learning: Spiritually mature people understand that spiritual development is an ongoing journey. They embrace opportunities for learning, growth, and transformation throughout their lives.

Inner Peace: Spiritual maturity is also the ability to maintain peace and inner calm in various circumstances, rooted in a deep sense of connection to the divine or a higher power.

Community & Relationships: Spiritually mature people strive to develop and maintain healthy, supportive relationships and contribute to their community in ways that reflect their spiritual values.

Compassion & Service: A spiritually mature person understands, empathizes with, and selflessly serves others, recognizing the interconnectedness of everyone and everything.

Spiritual Practices: Regular engagement in practices such as prayer and meditation cultivates a sense of connection to the divine, enhances mindfulness, and promotes spiritual reflection.

Taking care of ourselves and practicing self-love is a vital part of developing spiritually. It is important to prioritize our physical, emotional, and spiritual well-being, as it not only benefits our personal health and wellness, but also allows us to effectively assist and support others.

Spiritual maturity is highly personal and varies widely across faiths, spiritual paths, and individual life experiences. It’s the result of a conscious, ongoing effort to grow spiritually and live in alignment with one’s deepest values and beliefs.

The Lifelong Journey of Spiritual Maturity

Spiritual maturity is a lifelong journey that encompasses personal growth, self-discovery, and a deepening connection with the divine. It is a process of evolving and expanding one’s consciousness, beliefs, and understanding of the world around us. This journey is not limited to any particular religion or belief system but is a universal quest for meaning and purpose.

At its core, spiritual maturity involves developing a sense of inner peace, wisdom, and compassion. It is about transcending the ego and connecting with something greater than ourselves. This journey often begins with a spiritual awakening, a moment of realization that there is more to life than what meets the eye. It can be triggered by a significant life event, a personal crisis, or simply a deep longing for something more meaningful.

As we embark on this journey, we start to question our beliefs, values, and the way we live our lives. We seek answers to profound questions about the nature of existence, the purpose of suffering, and the meaning of life. This quest for truth leads us to explore various spiritual traditions, philosophies, and practices. We may find solace in meditation, prayer, yoga, or other contemplative practices that help us cultivate mindfulness and inner stillness.

Spiritual maturity also involves cultivating virtues such as patience, humility, gratitude, and forgiveness. It requires us to confront our fears, heal past wounds, and let go of attachments that no longer serve us. This process can be challenging and uncomfortable at times, as it requires us to confront our shadow selves and embrace our vulnerabilities. However, it is through these struggles that we grow and evolve.

One of the key aspects of spiritual maturity is the development of empathy and compassion towards others. As we deepen our understanding of ourselves and our connection to the divine, we start to see the interconnectedness of all beings. We recognize that we are all part of a larger whole and that our actions have ripple effects on the world around us. This realization leads us to live more consciously, making choices that align with our highest values and contribute to the well-being of others.

The journey of spiritual maturity is not linear but rather cyclical. We may experience moments of profound insight and transformation, followed by periods of stagnation or regression. It is important to embrace these ebbs and flows with patience and self-compassion, knowing that growth takes time and that setbacks are part of the process.

As we continue on this lifelong journey, we may find ourselves becoming more attuned to the subtle energies and synchronicities that guide us. We may experience moments of profound connection with the divine, where we feel a sense of oneness and unity with all creation. These experiences can be deeply transformative and serve as reminders of the infinite potential within each of us.

In conclusion, the lifelong journey of spiritual maturity is a profound and transformative process that involves personal growth, self-discovery, and a deepening connection with the divine. It is a quest for meaning, purpose, and inner peace that transcends any particular religion or belief system. As we navigate this journey, we cultivate virtues, confront our fears, and develop empathy and compassion towards others. It is a cyclical process that requires patience, self-compassion, and a willingness to embrace the unknown. Ultimately, it is through this journey that we uncover our true selves and find our place in the interconnected web of life.