In the summer of 1987, just about a year after the loss of both my parents (only 23 days apart), I found myself attending a mediumship event at a Spiritualist church located in Toronto.

Reflecting on that moment, I can now appreciate how deeply synchronistic the event was. It was clearly orchestrated by spirit.

I had never set foot in a Spiritualist church prior to that day. Earlier that afternoon, I shared lunch with a friend who casually brought up the evening service. She was unable to go — she was leaving town — but something stirred within me. Even with my skepticism, I felt a strong urge to attend on my own.

The quaint church was situated on the second floor of a shopping plaza above a retail store. As I ascended the steep staircase, a blend of curiosity and unease washed over me.

By the time I arrived, the room was packed, so I picked a seat near the door, just in case anything strange or uncomfortable occurred. Having never experienced a mediumship session before, I was uncertain about what to expect. I wanted easy access to leave if things became too bizarre!

Once the guest mediums were introduced, the first one stepped forward and gestured toward a man seated at the back. “May I approach you?” she inquired gently. When he nodded, she stayed at the front and began channeling messages from the spirit realm for him.

If she had invited me to come forward, I might have panicked. I likely would have exclaimed, “No thank you, ma’am! You can stay where you are!” At that time, I didn’t know that “May I approach you?” is a standard phrase used by platform mediums to address audience members without moving closer.

Your deceased loved ones are not gone; they remain a part of your ongoing life. They accompany you every day, sharing in all that happens in your world ~ Rory Walkom

To my astonishment, she “came to me” next. Addressing me as the individual in the gold-colored jacket, she humorously noted that she had forgotten her glasses and couldn’t quite distinguish whether I was a man or woman! Instead of feeling offended, I found comfort in her uncertainty — it was validation that she had no previous knowledge of me, which heightened the genuineness of the messages that were about to ensue.

I was taken aback when she mentioned my parents were present. She didn’t specify their names but expressed apologies on their behalf for their abrupt departures just days apart. Then, she provided details that only my parents and I could know — small, intimate truths that confirmed her connection to the spirit world. At that very moment, I realized the messages genuinely came from my parents.

A particularly touching and amusing instance occurred when she remarked that my father was visibly frustrated. Apparently, he was annoyed that he couldn’t communicate with me directly and had to utilize a medium instead. The medium even chuckled and mentioned that my father would have doubted any of “this stuff” while alive. That was classic Dad, and it made me laugh despite my tears.

As the evening progressed, four out of the five mediums present delivered meaningful messages to me. Each brought forth insights and validations that resonated with my heart and soul. I left the church transformed. I entered as a skeptic, gripping the door handle for a potential exit, and emerged spiritually awakened and irrevocably altered.

Hearing from my parents was remarkable, but I never anticipated that one day I would also communicate with spirit as a psychic medium. That night, a seed was ignited within me — a seed that would eventually flourish into my journey as a spiritual seeker and mystic.

Everyone possesses psychic abilities to varying degrees, yet not everyone is a medium. A medium is a psychic who has refined their extrasensory perception and can engage with spirits in other dimensions ~ James Van Praagh

Guidelines For Consulting A Medium

If you’re contemplating reaching out to a psychic medium for the first time — or even if you’re a returning sitter — here are some guidelines to help ensure your experience is positive, respectful, and enriching.

Work with a medium, not just a psychic. Psychics tune into your individual energy, those around you, and your potential future. Mediums communicate messages from spirit. Psychic mediums do both. While all are equally valuable, understanding the distinction helps manage expectations and find the right person to work with.

Seek out the right medium. Conduct research or ask for recommendations. Look for a medium who resonates with you spiritually and adheres to ethical practices. Reviews and personal referrals can be very beneficial.

Establish clear intentions. Before your session, take a few quiet moments to contemplate your reasons for seeking a reading. Whether it’s for closure, guidance, or connection, setting an authentic intention invites spirit to work with clarity and intention.

Center yourself with inner stillness. The most receptive state for a meaningful session is one of inner calm, free from urgency or personal agenda. This openness encourages clarity and reduces interference from expectations or emotional intensity.

Be respectful and present. Treat the session as a sacred experience. Silence your phone, be punctual, and approach the encounter with humility and gratitude. The more you respect the process, the deeper the connection can become.

Avoid oversharing at the outset. Allow the medium to take the lead initially. Authentic messages should surface without your input. This ensures that the guidance you receive comes directly from Spirit and is not influenced by your disclosures.

Maintain an open mind, yet be discerning. Stay receptive to messages, even if they appear in unexpected forms. Simultaneously, trust your intuition to discern what resonates as true and what does not.

Respect the medium’s process, rights, and responsibilities. The sensitive mental state required for mediumship cannot be forced. Allow the process to unfold naturally without pressing for specific results. Ethical mediums resist the pressure to “perform” or to provide answers for every question. Honor their right to say “I don’t know” or to pause when spirit is not clearly present.

Focus on depth rather than specifics.  While factual evidence like names or dates can be reassuring, the most profound validations often come through the essence of the loved one’s personality, memories, and emotional tone. Seek messages that resonate in your heart rather than solely in your mind.

Value spirit messages as profound opportunities. Communication from spirit often encompasses reflections, apologies, or insights that arise from a higher awareness. These are sacred chances for mutual healing, rather than mere curiosity or entertainment.

Take notes or record the session. Emotions may run high, and it’s easy to forget what was communicated. Having a recording or notes enables you to revisit the messages later and gain greater understanding over time.

Honor the sacred nature of grief. Mediumship should not be employed to bypass grief. A session is not a replacement for emotional healing; it serves as a supportive bridge. Avoid seeking constant contact out of dependency or an unwillingness to engage with the grieving process.

Be cautious against exploitation. Genuine spiritual service stems from integrity. Exercise caution if a practitioner insists on frequent expensive sessions or uses fear-based language to manipulate you for financial gain.

Avoid idolizing the medium. A medium is a channel, not a priest or guru. Healthy boundaries and clear roles promote clarity and prevent emotional entanglements that may obscure the message or cause confusion.

Integrate the messages gracefully. After the reading, take time to reflect. Journaling or meditating on the experience can help integrate the insights into your life meaningfully.

Don’t depend solely on readings. While messages from spirit can be comforting and enlightening, they should not replace personal decision-making or professional counsel. Use them for guidance, not as an absolute truth.

Collaborating with a reputable psychic medium can be an incredibly moving and empowering journey. When approached with openness, respect, and a grounded heart, the experience can provide healing, validation, and a revived sense of connection to the unseen threads linking our lives.

My Journey from Skepticism to Faith: Reflecting on My Initial Spiritual Experience

For many years, I labeled myself a skeptic regarding faith and spirituality. I was brought up in a household that prioritized science and rationality above all, and I was instilled with the idea of questioning everything and depending on evidence-based reasoning. Consequently, I struggled to believe in anything that lacked empirical proof.

Yet, everything shifted when I experienced my first spiritual encounter a few years ago. It was a moment that completely changed my view of the world and revealed the existence of something greater than myself.

I had been enduring a particularly hard time in my life, wrestling with feelings of loneliness and despair. I felt adrift and disconnected from my surroundings, desperately seeking some form of meaning or purpose to grasp.

One day, a friend suggested that I join her for a meditation retreat. I was initially reluctant, but something inside urged me to give it a chance. So, I packed my belongings and headed to the retreat center, unaware of what awaited me.

The retreat unfolded in a gorgeous, tranquil setting amid nature. As I sat meditating, a wave of peace and calm washed over me. For the first time in a long while, I felt truly centered in the moment, liberated from the burdens and anxieties that had encumbered me.

During one of the guided meditation sessions, I underwent a transformational spiritual experience that I can only describe as feeling unified with the universe. It was as if I had tapped into a higher power that linked me to everything and everyone around me. In that moment, I experienced a level of love and acceptance unlike anything I had felt before.

This experience marked a pivotal moment in my life. It helped me understand that there was more to existence than what could be explicated by science and reason alone. It opened my eyes to the possibility of a spiritual dimension beyond the physical realm.

Since that day, I have continued to delve into my spirituality and strengthen my bond with the divine. I have found comfort and direction in practices like meditation, prayer, and mindfulness. I have also sought the wisdom of spiritual teachers and mentors who have guided me on my journey of self-exploration.

Reflecting on my initial spiritual encounter, I am thankful for the skepticism I once embraced. It was through inquiry and the quest for answers that I was able to welcome new possibilities and beliefs into my life. My journey from skepticism to faith has been transformative, and I am eager to see what lies ahead. Continue reading →

To exist in the world…but remain separate from it! I believe this is the hidden desire of numerous professional psychics. Each day, we move between two realms – one grounded in spiritual insight and elevated consciousness, the other fully immersed in the human experience and daily life.

Our clients often prefer to see us as tranquil and composed mystics who exist above the everyday challenges faced by ordinary individuals. However, it’s essential to clarify: life affects psychics too, and at times, it can become quite chaotic!

Like everyone else, I must tend to my regular household responsibilities despite a busy professional schedule. Today, I find myself with bills to settle, dishes to clean, and a laundry basket full to tackle, among other things. My connection to higher realms doesn’t grant me immunity from everyday tasks.

Unless I choose to isolate myself in a cave somewhere (and trust me, the thought has crossed my mind!), psychics are not exempt from life’s complications and disorder.

Nonetheless, what we can cultivate, and many of us learn to perfect over time, is to maintain a sacred space within — a refuge in our hearts that remains undisturbed even when the world around us is filled with chaos.

Interestingly, I believe that confronting the messy, difficult, and chaotic aspects of life is crucial for those in the psychic profession. These moments act as connection points in our spiritual practice because they root us, keep us modest, and allow us to connect with others.

When a client confides that they’re running around like a “headless chicken,” I can genuinely relate. I understand it fully. I too, experience these challenges. My own difficulties are a blessing because they enable me to empathize and connect with those who seek my guidance.

It is not in the still calm of life, or the repose of a pacific station, that great characters are formed. The habits of a vigorous mind are formed in contending with difficulties ~ Abigail Adams

A constant source of comfort for me is the assurance that spirit consistently supports me in my endeavors. I may endure a tough day or feel deep internal turmoil — stress, anxiety, or even sorrow — yet the moment I begin a reading, a shift occurs. I am instantly elevated above my immediate worries and transported to a higher state of awareness and presence. It’s as if spirit is declaring, “We’re in charge now.” All my everyday concerns fade into the background, and I become a clear, concentrated channel.

I was reminded of this just yesterday. While in the midst of a phone reading on Psychic Access, my reading room was suddenly filled with a most delightful fragrance. It was unmistakably reminiscent of the “Yesterday, Today and Tomorrow” shrub (Brunfelsia pauciflora) that used to blossom outside my previous workplace in South Africa years ago. This evergreen plant is renowned for its flowers that change color, beginning with purple, shifting to lavender, and ultimately turning white over a few days – hence its poetic title.

The familiar floral scent was so vivid and so unexpected that I immediately recognized it as a sign. That shrub outside my office window had consistently brought me immense joy and solace during tough times. It was undoubtedly a fragrant message from spirit, as I do not have a “Yesterday, Today and Tomorrow” shrub here in my garden in Spain.

The aroma lingered throughout the day — a potent reminder that the wisdom I provide doesn’t originate from me, but flows through me. Mystical encounters like these humble me. They emphasize that as psychics, we are not the source — we merely serve as the channels. And in this role, we are also supported, just as we support others.

It’s vital to recognize that being a psychic — particularly as a full-time practitioner — can be emotionally and energetically draining at times. We carry a significant load, not only in the readings we conduct, but also in the fabric of our daily existence. Many psychics, mediums, and healers I know possess a deep sense of duty and commitment to serve. We have an innate drive to assist. We feel life more intensely. And often, we overextend ourselves, sometimes to the detriment of our own health and well-being.

In our bodies, in this moment, there live the seed impulses of the change and spiritual growth we seek, and to awaken them we must bring our awareness into the body, into the here and now ~ Pat Ogden

I observe this pattern in many of my more sensitive and empathetic clients. They approach me feeling drained and disenchanted, questioning why life has burdened them so heavily. “Why is this happening to me?” they ponder. And what I’ve gained from both personal and professional experience is this: often it is not merely a cruel twist of fate. It serves as a soul lesson — a spiritual invitation to master the art of establishing boundaries and asserting oneself.

I’ve learned this lesson the hard way, too. For an extended period, I found myself being a doormat — consistently saying yes, over-delivering, and attempting to be everything to everyone. Refusing felt selfish. However, I’ve come to realize that saying no is fundamentally an act of self-care and spiritual growth. This does not imply that I’ve transformed into a heartless being – I still melt for my pets, who have mastered the art of manipulation with a single glance! But I have become more discerning in how I engage with people.

So, why is saying no so challenging? Guilt, for starters. Many of us have been conditioned to link our value with how much we do for others. We desire approval. We want to feel needed. We wish to be seen as reliable and competent. Yet, if we continue to say yes, we risk developing resentment, becoming overwhelmed, and, ironically, being less accessible to those we genuinely care for.

Sometimes it’s not just guilt, but also perfectionism. We fear that if we don’t handle things ourselves, they won’t be done correctly. We avoid delegating, even when we’re feeling swamped. The consequence? Burnout. And when we’re worn out, our spiritual abilities can become clouded. Our connection with our higher self, spirit, and the divine can become harder to reach. Self-care is not a luxury — it’s imperative. For those in the psychic, medium, or healing professions, it’s crucial to our practice.

Ultimately, the paradox of existing as a psychic in today’s world is this: we are both grounded and uplifted, human and spiritual, vulnerable and wise, physical and metaphysical. We are here to assist, but we are also here to live. To fail. To face challenges. To develop. To acquire wisdom. And in doing so, we exemplify what it means to navigate the spiritual path without losing sight of our own humanity.

Thus, yes, psychics may be “in the world but not of it.” Yet, we are undeniably present. And that is precisely where we are meant to be.

Navigating from Lightwork and High Energies to Household Duties: Handling Laundry and Dirty Dishes

In the realm of self-development and spiritual enlightenment, many individuals concentrate on elevating their vibrations, engaging in lightwork, and nurturing positive energy. While these practices are crucial for personal growth, it’s equally vital to uphold a balanced lifestyle that includes managing household responsibilities. Among these responsibilities, laundry and dirty dishes often demand attention. In this article, we will delve into various tips and strategies for transitioning from lightwork and high energies to efficiently handling these household tasks.

1. Adopt a Service Mindset:
One way to approach household chores is by shifting your perspective from viewing them as mundane tasks to recognizing them as acts of service. Understanding that maintaining your living environment is a way of showing respect and appreciation for the space that supports you can imbue your chores with purpose and positive energy.

2. Establish a Routine:
Creating a consistent schedule for laundry and dirty dishes can facilitate smoother management of these responsibilities. Designate specific days and times for doing laundry and allocate a set time each day for washing dishes. By integrating these tasks into your daily or weekly routine, they can evolve into regular habits rather than overwhelming obligations.

3. Practice Mindfulness:
While performing household chores, embrace mindfulness by being fully engaged in the present moment. Instead of hurriedly completing tasks, focus on every step of the process. Be aware of the sensation of water on your hands when washing dishes or the fragrance of freshly laundered clothing. By immersing yourself in the current moment, you can transform these chores into mindful practices that enhance your overall well-being.

4. Utilize Affirmations and Mantras:
Affirmations and mantras can serve as powerful tools to shift your mindset and infuse positive energy into any situation. While doing laundry or washing dishes, repeat affirmations or mantras that resonate with you. For instance, you might say, “I am grateful for the clean clothes that nourish and support me” or “I am creating a clean, harmonious environment for myself and my loved ones.” By expressing positive intentions during your chores, you can elevate the energy and enhance the enjoyment of these tasks.

5. Transform It into a Sacred Ritual:
Think about turning your household chores into sacred rituals. Light a candle or play calming music while handling laundry or dishes. Create an atmosphere that promotes relaxation and tranquility. By imbuing these tasks with a sense of sacredness, you can transform them into moments of self-care and rejuvenation.

6. Involve the Whole Family:
Managing household chores should not be the sole responsibility of one individual. Engage your family members in the process and foster a sense of shared accountability. Assign specific tasks to each family member to ensure that everyone contributes to the overall cleanliness and order of the home. Working together can create a harmonious environment and enhance family unity.

In summary, transitioning from lightwork and high energies to managing household chores like laundry and dirty dishes is a vital aspect of maintaining a balanced lifestyle. By adopting a service mindset, establishing a routine, practicing mindfulness, using affirmations and mantras, turning chores into sacred rituals, and involving the entire family, you can change these tasks into meaningful and enjoyable experiences. Keep in mind that the energy you bring to your chores can significantly influence your overall well-being and the energy of your living environment. Continue reading →