As a psychic medium, I have devoted decades to observing the profound and intricate path of grief.

Throughout the years, I’ve discovered that grief takes on various expressions and takes many forms. It’s not solely confined to death and dying; it can stem from countless losses such as losing a pet, the conclusion of a relationship, a shift in life direction, job loss, or relocating from a cherished home.

My clients frequently express sentiments like, “There’s a void in my heart,” or “It feels as though my heart has been ripped apart.”

These phrases are more than mere figurative language. Grief can be so overwhelming that it feels akin to a physical wound — like a ‘heart attack’ of the spirit. Grief resonates throughout our heart, mind, body, and spirit, impacting all aspects of our existence.

One of the most crucial lessons I’ve come to understand is that grief is profoundly individual. Each person processes it in a different manner. There is no universal “right” way to grieve nor a predetermined timeline.

Some individuals may begin to feel a slight relief after a few weeks or months, while for others, the pain may extend for years or even decades. And that’s completely acceptable.

Grieving signifies that you loved deeply, cared earnestly, and formed significant connections. It’s about more than just saying farewell; it involves cultivating a new bond with their absence, one that honors the love in a different format.

Grief represents both a natural emotional response and a sacred journey. In spiritual terms, it’s a deep voyage of the soul — involving transformation rather than merely sorrow. It transcends emotional anguish; it touches the most profound facets of your faith, beliefs, and relationship with something larger than yourself.

The price of love is loss; and the cost of loss is grief – Yet the ache of grief is merely a shadow when contrasted with the agony of never having risked love ~ Hilary Stanton Zunin

In numerous spiritual beliefs, grief is regarded as a pathway to wisdom and growth. Some view it as the soul’s method of deepening its comprehension of love and impermanence, pushing one towards acceptance and renewal. Others perceive it as a sacred moment, where the essence of loss also embodies something significant — whether it’s the enduring love from those we’ve lost or the epiphany of life’s interconnectedness.

There’s also a mystical dimension to grief: in times of profound sorrow, individuals may become more spiritually aware and receptive to signs, dreams, or sensations that exceed rationality.

It’s essential to remember that we grieve not only for what we’ve lost but also for what never came to be. For instance, when a marriage dissolves, people may grieve the hopes they had for the relationship rather than accepting its reality. This too is a legitimate form of grief.

The Five Stages Of Grief

In her pioneering work On Death and Dying (1962), psychiatrist Elisabeth Kübler-Ross introduced the renowned Kübler-Ross model, which delineates the five stages of grief.

Denial – This is the initial reaction to loss, where we grapple with accepting reality. It acts as a psychological defense mechanism, fostering temporary emotional numbness to protect us from overwhelming sensations.

Anger – As the reality of the loss dawns, emotions transition to frustration and resentment. We may direct our anger towards ourselves, others, or the situation, looking for something or someone to blame.

Bargaining – In an effort to reclaim control or reverse the loss, we may attempt to negotiate with a higher power, with ourselves, or with others. Common thoughts include “If only I had acted differently…” or “Maybe if I change things, it will improve.”

Depression – The gravity of the loss becomes fully apparent, resulting in profound sadness, withdrawal, and reflection. This stage is often characterized by feelings of hopelessness, isolation, or contemplation of what has been lost.

Acceptance – Eventually, we arrive at a point where we cease to resist the reality of our loss. This doesn’t imply forgetting or feeling “fine” about it, but rather assimilating the experience into our lives and finding paths to advance.

However, it’s crucial to acknowledge that grief is predominantly personal — there is no preset timeline, and healing manifests differently for everyone. The five stages are not strictly sequential; we may navigate them in various orders or revisit certain stages multiple times. Grief can ebb and flow like the tides. One moment, we may feel acceptance; the next, we may find ourselves submerged in sorrow once more.

Triggers, such as a familiar melody, a specific scent, or a meaningful location, can unexpectedly transport us back to the depths of our anguish. Yet, these instances also provide chances for healing. They serve as sacred reminders of our ongoing connection to our lost loved ones.

Moving on after a loss doesn’t equate to forgetting. It involves learning to carry love in a new fashion. A good starting point is granting yourself permission to mourn at your own pace, free of judgment.

Grief resembles the ocean; it washes over us in waves, ebbing and flowing. Sometimes the waters are calm, and other times they are all-consuming. All we can do is learn to swim ~ Vicki Harrison

Charting Your Own Course Through Grief

The following are some suggestions to aid you in navigating grief on your own terms:

Honor your emotions – There is no single correct manner to grieve. Permit yourself to experience whatever feelings arise, whether they be sadness, anger, relief, or even unexpected joy. Don’t suppress your feelings; grief must process through you. Cry as needed. Laugh when possible. Embrace it all.

Grieve at your own rhythm – Grief does not adhere to a schedule. Take all the time you require, and resist any pressure to “move forward” before you’re ready.

Adapt to change – Loss frequently transforms our lives in unforeseen ways. Embrace your evolution, even if it feels strange at the outset.

Find purpose and significance – Whether through spirituality, creativity, therapy, or volunteering, seeking purpose in your loss can assist in steering you through the pain and towards healing.

Reach out and maintain connections – Even if solitude feels preferable at this moment, staying connected with supportive individuals can offer comfort and perspective. You don’t need to grieve in isolation. Contact friends, join a support group, or converse with someone who can relate.

Create personal rituals – Establishing rituals— such as lighting a candle, composing letters, visiting a significant site, or scattering ashes — can help preserve your bond with what was lost.

Engage in creative pursuits and constructive activities – Hobbies and crafts can serve as powerful mediums for processing grief. Try your hand at painting, drawing, pottery, sculpting, woodworking, DIY projects, knitting, crocheting, calligraphy, or journaling.

Honor memories by sharing stories. Look through photographs. Celebrate birthdays or anniversaries in a manner that holds meaning for you.

Listen to your body – Grief encompasses both emotional and physical dimensions. Nourish your body with healthy food, ensure you rest adequately, and gently move your body, even if it’s simply a brief stroll.

Practice self-kindness. Grieving is demanding. Treat yourself with gentleness. Don’t anticipate a rapid recovery; there will be challenging days. Extend to yourself the same kindness and patience you would show a dear friend.

Avoid making significant decisions. Refrain from major life changes in the immediate aftermath of a loss. Allow time for stabilization.

Spend time in nature or with animals. The natural environment and loving pets can provide grounding and calming influences for a grieving spirit.

Avoid major life decisions. When possible, hold off on significant choices in the immediate aftermath of your loss. Take time to regain your equilibrium.

Think about a mediumship session. A meeting with a reputable psychic medium could relay messages of love, peace, and closure from those who have passed. This connection has the potential to mend a grieving heart.

As a medium, I often have the honor of facilitating reconnections between clients and their loved ones in spirit. These encounters can be incredibly healing. Spirits frequently share messages of encouragement; they wish for us to live, find joy, and embrace tranquility. They remind us that they have not truly departed—they have merely transitioned to another realm.

Grief is a transformative odyssey. It reshapes our identities and perceptions of the world. However, it can also ignite profound spiritual awakening. May you grant yourself the grace to mourn and the bravery to heal. Always bear in mind that you are not alone.

Grief is a shared human experience that we all encounter at some point in our lives. Whether it be the loss of a beloved individual, a job, a relationship, or a cherished dream, grief can be a daunting and overpowering journey. Nevertheless, it is also a sacred pathway that can lead to healing, growth, and transformation when approached with awareness and self-kindness.

Here are some suggestions on how to traverse the sacred journey of grief:

1. Allow yourself to experience your emotions: Grief is intricate and multifaceted, presenting itself in numerous forms, including sadness, anger, guilt, and even relief. It is vital to let yourself experience all of these feelings without judgment or suppression. By recognizing and accepting your emotions, you can begin to process and release them healthily.

2. Prioritize self-care: Grief can take a toll on you physically and emotionally, so it’s crucial to care for yourself during this challenging period. Ensure you eat healthily, exercise, get adequate rest, and engage in activities that bring you joy and comfort. Self-care can help you manage the stress associated with grief and preserve your overall well-being.

3. Seek support: Grieving is a deeply personal journey, yet it’s equally essential to seek support from others who can offer comfort, understanding, and empathy. Reach out to friends, family, support groups, or a therapist who can help guide you through your grief and provide a listening ear when needed.

4. Honor your loved one: If you are mourning the loss of someone dear, consider ways to commemorate their memory and legacy. This might involve creating a memorial, writing a letter, planting a tree, or participating in a charitable event in their name. By keeping their memory alive, you can find solace in knowing they will always be present in spirit.

5. Embrace mindfulness and self-compassion: Grief can be a surge of emotions, thoughts, and physical sensations that can sometimes feel overwhelming. By practicing mindfulness and self-compassion, you can foster a sense of presence, acceptance, and kindness towards yourself as you navigate the highs and lows of grief. Take time to breathe, meditate, journal, or engage in other self-soothing practices that can help you stay grounded and centered during this demanding time.

6. Be patient and gentle with yourself: Grief is a journey that requires time, patience, and self-kindness. It’s important to be gentle with yourself and allow your grief to unfold at its own pace. Remember that healing is not a straightforward process, and it’s normal to have good days and bad days. By being patient and kind to yourself, you can gradually navigate the phases of grief and discover peace and acceptance on the other side.

In closing, navigating the sacred journey of grief is a deeply personal and transformative experience that leads to healing, growth, and resilience. By allowing yourself to feel your emotions, prioritizing self-care, seeking support, honoring your loved one, practicing mindfulness and self-compassion, and being patient and gentle with yourself, you can navigate grief’s ups and downs with grace and courage. Remember that you are not alone in your grief and that there is light beyond the tunnel. Trust in the process, trust in yourself, and trust in the healing power of love and resilience. Continue reading →

Recently, I shared a hearty laugh with a friend as we looked back on a peculiar experience we had ages ago with a psychic medium (which she has continued to tease me about ever since).

We unintentionally showed up an hour ahead of a mediumship demonstration by an incredibly talented medium (per my friend’s claims). With not much else on the agenda, we opted to get some snacks at the venue before the event kicked off.

Before long, we were engrossed in a lively discussion about spiritualism and mediumship. Not too far away sat a somewhat eerie dark-haired woman who unnerved me a bit. I had this feeling that she might be tuning in to our conversation.

The hour zipped by, and the event started. To my astonishment and perplexity, the dark-haired woman we had noticed earlier rose to her feet, welcomed everyone, and revealed her identity to the audience. The ‘listener’ was the medium!

Then, out of the blue, she glanced around and asked, “Who is Lucinda?”

My friend was thrilled by this astonishing turn of events. “See, I told you — she’s the genuine article!” she whispered with bubbling enthusiasm.

“No, she’s not,” I quickly countered, “she heard my name back at the snack bar…when you inquired about my drink!”

But my friend was not swayed by my skepticism, wholly convinced that the woman must have heard my name from the spirits. To her, asking about “Lucinda” had to be proof of her remarkable psychic skills.

If we will begin with certainties, we shall end in doubts; but if we will be content to begin with doubts, we shall end in certainties ~ Francis Bacon

Nevertheless, I remained steadfast in my disbelief. In fact, my skepticism peaked when the medium left it at that. No additional messages from any departed loved ones were delivered to either my friend or me. It appeared that spirit had revealed my name…for no clear reason…and then nothing further transpired, which only deepened my distrust of the medium’s legitimacy.

The demonstration felt drawn out for me, and I even started watching the clock. The quicker I could leave, the happier I’d be.

Then, just as the evening was nearing its conclusion, the medium abruptly paused, began tapping her chest (just like my deceased father used to) and declared, “I have a very anxious man here named Jimmy, who passed away from a heart attack.”

This certainly piqued my interest! Not only did the medium replicate my late father’s distinct mannerisms, but she also mentioned his name and described his character accurately. He was indeed quite anxious by nature, and she confirmed the cause of his death. Then she conveyed that he was seeking my forgiveness, which resonated with me deeply, beyond mere coincidence.

I exited the meeting as a newfound believer in the medium whose abilities I had initially unjustly doubted. Nowadays, in my own practice, I frequently receive names during readings, and clients often inquire how I knew them. I simply respond, “I truly don’t understand exactly how it works. I am just relaying what I receive.”

Sadly, there are those who profess to be psychics and mediums lacking any genuine abilities. The realm of spiritualism and psychic reading is not devoid of charlatans who tarnish the reputation of the rest of us.

Believe nothing, no matter where you read it or who has articulated it, not even if I have said it, unless it aligns with your own reason and common sense ~ Buddha

So, how can one differentiate between a genuine psychic or medium and someone out for exploitation? Here are some indicative signs you should always heed:

They ask rather than tell: An authentic medium (or psychic) shouldn’t need to pry too heavily into your background—perhaps just your name, date of birth, and any specific queries you might have for the session. If they begin probing personal information excessively, it typically signals they’re fishing for details rather than receiving them psychically. It’s completely acceptable to clarify information as the reading progresses, ensuring clarity and correct interpretation. But if you find you’re doing most of the talking, that’s usually a warning sign!

Don’t fall prey to fear-mongering: Years ago, I had a short phone reading with someone I discovered online. Within moments, she called me back and insisted I pay for more time with her because I was in serious danger—particularly concerning my romantic life—and that I needed another reading immediately. I kindly informed her that I was (and still am) blissfully married to a wonderful man for decades and that her tactics to frighten me into more expensive readings were inappropriate and unethical. Unsurprisingly, she never contacted me again. Fear should never be a sales strategy.

Watch out for vague guesses: A reputable psychic or medium can provide details specific enough that they could not possibly be guessed. They should respond to your inquiries with precision rather than ambiguous generalities that could apply to anyone. Authentic psychics and mediums receive insights, they don’t make guesses.

Steer clear of curse removals and spell clearings: I’ve had clients approach me believing they are cursed or in dire need of a costly “cleansing” ritual. Let me assure you, the most significant magical force in your life is your own belief system. Your thoughts and feelings shape your experience far more powerfully than any alleged curse. Don’t let anyone sway you otherwise—especially those who offer to “remove” curses for a hefty price.

They make promises and guarantees: As the old adage goes, the only things guaranteed in life are death and taxes! No legitimate psychic will assure you of a specific outcome or boast about a 99.9% accuracy rate. They may share what they perceive unfolding based on your current path and energy, but the future is fluid and influenced by your free will choices. A real psychic will always motivate you to actively shape your own destiny, not passively wait for it to happen to you.

They foster dependency: No medium or psychic should ever give you the impression that they are your sole source of insight and well-being. Genuine spiritual guidance empowers you; it doesn’t foster dependency. A true reader will encourage you to seek readings from different practitioners, explore various viewpoints, and most importantly, trust your own intuition.

They undermine your intuition: Every day, I remind my clients that their intuition is their most valuable asset, as it is through intuition that spirit communicates with us. A fraudulent psychic, however, may discourage you from trusting your inner wisdom, preferring that you rely exclusively on them for answers. If someone doesn’t uplift you to connect with your own inner guidance and higher self, it’s a significant warning sign.

It is crucial to only engage with psychics and mediums who are reputable, ethical, experienced, and dedicated to authentic practice. That’s why I enjoy working on the Psychic Access platform, as each practitioner undergoes thorough vetting through interviews, verifications, and assessments of psychic abilities. These rigorous standards ensure you’ll receive trustworthy readings that empower, uplift, and connect you with true spiritual insight.

Eavesdropping is a prevalent activity involving the interception of private conversations or spying on someone without their awareness or consent. In today’s digital era, eavesdropping has evolved with the emergence of eavesdropping mediums. These mediums encompass devices or technologies capable of intercepting and monitoring communications between individuals, be it through phone calls, text messages, emails, or even face-to-face dialogues.

An inquiry into the phenomenon of eavesdropping mediums unveils the extent to which our privacy is being compromised in this digital age. The advancement of technology has made it increasingly convenient for individuals, organizations, and even governments to eavesdrop on private discussions unnoticed. This raises significant concerns about the safeguarding of personal information and the right to privacy.

One of the most prevalent eavesdropping mediums involves spyware or malware on electronic devices like smartphones and computers. These harmful programs can be surreptitiously installed without the user’s awareness, enabling them to record conversations, track location, and monitor online behavior. In certain instances, eavesdropping mediums can even remotely activate a device’s microphone or camera to listen in on conversations or capture video.

Another notable eavesdropping medium that has garnered attention recently is the use of IMSI catchers, also known as Stingrays. These devices simulate cell phone towers and can intercept and monitor mobile phone communications in a particular vicinity. Law enforcement agencies have been known to utilize IMSI catchers for surveillance on suspects, raising concerns about potential misuse and violation of privacy rights.

In addition to electronic eavesdropping mediums, physical eavesdropping devices such as concealed cameras and microphones can be utilized to spy on individuals within their homes, workplaces, or public locations. These devices can be challenging to detect and may be employed for nefarious purposes such as blackmail, extortion, or corporate espionage.

The widespread availability of eavesdropping mediums emphasizes the necessity for heightened awareness and vigilance regarding the protection of our privacy. Individuals should take measures to safeguard their electronic devices by employing strong passwords, keeping their software current, and exercising caution when downloading unfamiliar apps or clicking on unsolicited links. Additionally, being aware of your surroundings and cognizant of potential physical eavesdropping devices in public venues is crucial.

Furthermore, policymakers and regulators must act to address the rising threat posed by eavesdropping mediums and establish laws and regulations that protect individuals’ privacy rights. This might encompass stricter controls on surveillance technologies, enhanced transparency and accountability for government bodies and law enforcement, and improved public education about eavesdropping risks.

In summary, the presence of eavesdropping mediums presents a significant menace to our privacy and security in the digital landscape. It is vital for individuals to proactively implement measures to shield themselves from both electronic and physical eavesdropping, and for lawmakers to take steps to protect privacy rights in an ever-connected world. Continue reading →