Is our relationship fostering our spiritual well-being? We invest significant time, effort, and resources into our relationships, encompassing dating, marriage, and parenthood. Each phase brings its own unique blend of obstacles and pleasures. Nevertheless, within these significant life events, it is common to wonder if our relationship is positively impacting our spiritual wellness.

Consider the influence your partner has on your mental and spiritual welfare. Is your relationship strengthening your bond with a higher power or something sacred? Is it supportive and safeguarding your family and dear ones? Or do you sense a subtle detachment from what truly holds significance?

It is a typical situation where an intimate relationship gradually diminishes due to changing priorities. Possibly, your partner prioritizes spending time with friends rather than focusing on important family moments. It is also possible that personal interests or habits begin to dominate, leading to a decline in intimacy and trust.

This isn’t just a personal story; it’s a broader reality with serious consequences. Children left wondering where a missing parent is, while the other struggles alone as a single parent, trying to juggle too much. This absence of care and nurture affects children’s personal and spiritual growth, leaving lasting echoes into their adulthood.

In numerous instances, substance abuse, specifically alcohol and drugs, infiltrate these circumstances, destructively eroding relationships and families without much notice. Throughout my spiritual endeavors, I have encountered numerous individuals who are struggling with a decline in their marriages and turmoil within their homes, which is further overshadowed by the presence of substance abuse and addiction.

If you find yourself trapped in a similar situation, question the reasons why you’re choosing to stay. Love should not accompany self-destructive behaviors. Reflect on the intersection of your spiritual journey and your partner’s commitment if their devotion appears to fluctuate. Occasionally, the most challenging decisions can bring about healing.

For almost every addict who s mired in this terrible disease, other — a mother or father, a child or spouse, an aunt or uncles or grandparents, a brother or sister — are suffering too. Families are the hidden victims of addiction, enduring enormous levels of stress and pain ~ Beverly Conyers

Reclaiming your spiritual power is often the first step to self-empowerment. Seek support from trusted friends or groups who understand and uplift you. Engage in spiritual practices that feed your soul, recognizing your worth beyond toxic dynamics.

Chaos and discord are the devil’s playground. Each drink or hit takes you further from truth, distorting reality. Protect your spirit from these traps; trust your soul’s resilience to guide you towards clarity and freedom.

Remember, you deserve love that uplifts your spirit. Let go of illusions created by addiction; embrace the light within and around you. As you navigate relationship complexities, may your journey be guided by faith, self-love, and a steadfast commitment to your personal and spiritual growth.

The quest for emotional balance in connections extends beyond ordinary worries. It demands bravery, perception, and a dedication to honoring the sacred essence within. Embrace this expedition understanding that each stride towards spiritual liberation brings you nearer to genuine contentment.

Where To Find Help

Here is a list of prominent international helplines and support organizations that provide assistance for substance abuse and drug addiction. Please note that availability and services may vary by location. It’s important to reach out to these organizations for specific details and guidance tailored to your needs:

Alcoholics Anonymous (AA)

Website: Alcoholics Anonymous

AA provides assistance and various resources for individuals worldwide who are experiencing difficulties with alcohol dependence.

Narcotics Anonymous (NA)

Website: Narcotics Anonymous

NA offers assistance groups and resources for individuals who are coping with drug addiction.

SMART Recovery

Website: SMART Recovery

SMART Recovery offers science-based tools and support groups for addiction recovery globally.

SAMHSA National Helpline (USA)

Phone: 1-800-662-HELP (4357)

SAMHSA, also known as the Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration, presents an accessible and confidential helpline that provides information and references for mental health treatment and substance abuse in the United States.

UK Narcotics Anonymous

Phone: 0300 999 1212

NA helpline for individuals in the United Kingdom seeking support for drug addiction.

National Council on Alcoholism and Drug Dependence (NCADD)

Website: NCADD

NCADD offers education, advocacy, and support services for individuals and families affected by alcoholism and drug addiction.

Canadian Centre on Substance Use and Addiction (CCSA)

Website: CCSA

CCSA provides resources, research, and information on substance use and addiction in Canada.

Australia DrugInfo

Website: UNODC

UNODC works globally to combat illicit drugs and provide resources for drug abuse prevention and treatment.

The Cabin Addiction Services Group

Website: The Cabin

The Cabin offers addiction treatment services and resources in various locations worldwide.

Reach Out Recovery

Website: Reach Out Recovery

Reach Out Recovery provides online resources and support for individuals and families affected by addiction.

Shatterproof

Website: Shatterproof

Shatterproof is a nonprofit organization dedicated to ending the devastation addiction causes families.

If you or someone you know is facing challenges with substance abuse and addiction, these organizations and helplines can provide significant help and advice. It is important to contact these resources to receive assistance and information tailored to your specific location and requirements.

Substance abuse is a growing issue that affects numerous individuals and families worldwide. It not only harms those struggling with addiction but also has a profound impact on their relationships and families. The destructive nature of substance abuse can dismantle even the strongest bonds, leaving behind heartbreak and shattered lives.

One of the most significant effects of substance abuse on relationships is the breakdown of trust. Addiction often leads individuals to lie, manipulate, and deceive their loved ones to support their habit. This constant dishonesty destroys trust, making it hard for family members to believe anything the addicted person says. Consequently, relationships become strained, and communication breaks down.

Substance abuse also leads to emotional and psychological turmoil within families. Loved ones often experience emotions like anger, frustration, sadness, and helplessness as they witness their family member spiral out of control. They may blame themselves for the addiction or feel guilty for not being able to fix the problem. These emotions can lead to resentment and conflict within the family, further damaging relationships.

Another significant consequence of substance abuse on families is financial strain. Addictions are costly to maintain, and individuals struggling with substance abuse often resort to desperate measures to fund their habit. This can include stealing from family members, accumulating debt, or losing their job due to impaired performance. The financial burden can overwhelm families, leading to increased stress and instability.

Children are particularly vulnerable to the devastating impact of substance abuse within families. Growing up in an environment where addiction is present can have long-term effects on their emotional, physical, and psychological well-being. They may experience neglect, abuse, or witness violent behavior associated with substance abuse. These traumatic experiences can result in various issues such as low self-esteem, behavioral problems, academic difficulties, and an increased likelihood of developing their own addiction later in life.

Substance abuse also often results in a breakdown of family roles and responsibilities. The addicted person may become unreliable, neglecting their duties as a parent, spouse, or caregiver. This can force other family members to take on additional responsibilities and roles they are ill-prepared for, leading to feelings of overwhelm and resentment.

Thankfully, families affected by substance abuse can find hope. Seeking professional help like therapy or counseling is crucial in addressing the complex issues that arise from addiction. Family therapy can help rebuild trust, improve communication, and provide a safe space for healing and understanding.

Support groups like Al-Anon or Nar-Anon are also invaluable resources for families dealing with substance abuse. These groups offer a supportive community of individuals who have faced similar challenges and can provide guidance, empathy, and coping strategies.

During this difficult time, it is essential for families to prioritize self-care. Taking care of one’s physical and mental well-being is crucial in maintaining resilience and strength. Establishing boundaries, seeking individual therapy, and engaging in activities that bring joy and relaxation can assist family members in navigating the challenges they encounter.

A client recently discussed her difficulties with managing anger and expressed frustration with her inability to resolve her ‘anger issues’. She worried that her anger would inevitably invite and result in more negativity in her life.

There is value and wisdom in feeling angry, according to Spirit’s response. It is undeniable that at times we become extremely enraged and furious. This is a normal response to situations that oppose our wants and wishes. If anger were not a natural reaction, we would not experience it during our physical existence.

The truth is that all negative emotions are actually a dear friend who is there to tell us something. It indicates that we are out of alignment with our Higher Self, Spirit and the Divine. When we experience fear, anxiety or anger it indicates that we are out of alignment and no longer in the flow.

One prevalent factor that leads to pain is the narratives we create concerning the future. An often encountered story among my clients starts as follows: “I can only achieve happiness when…”

We create a story about the fulfilment of certain desires and then focus more on the result or outcome rather than the process and the present moment. When our happiness depends on the future fulfilment of a story, we are no longer in resonance with the present reality and out of alignment with the universal flow. We are no longer living fully, we are merely playing an impatient waiting game.

Anger is just anger. It isn’t good. It isn’t bad. It just is. What you do with it is what matters ~ Jim Butcher

There are two ways to respond to creating a story. Either we attempt to manipulate every aspect of the situation to make it happen, but this typically has negative consequences. Alternatively, we may have doubts that our desires will ever come true. However, both of these responses contradict the reality that our original desires are inspired by our spirit and it is our soul’s intention for them to be fulfilled.

Our wishes and desires are inherently benevolent and good. They are an expression of our innate ability as incarnated spirit beings to create, attract and manifest. They are conceived by our Higher Self, the Spirit and the Divine, and are therefore meant to be fulfilled!

Our wishes and desires, which originate from a spiritual inspiration, can be distorted or corrupted when we attempt to exert excessive control or prioritize fulfilling our ego-driven impulses. Adversely, these occurrences can lead to unfavorable and damaging outcomes. However, it is important to recognize that our wishes and desires in their pure state are bestowed upon us by a higher power.

If all desires in their original state are inherently positive, as long as we stay in harmony and have faith in the cosmic order, how does anger impact the realization of our divine desires? At first glance, anger does not appear to be in alignment or in harmony with the cosmic flow. How can anger be perceived as spiritual?

To gain a complete comprehension of the significance and benefits of anger (and other adverse emotions) and its impact on the realization of our wishes, we must acknowledge two fundamental spiritual principles of manifestation.

The Mystical Power Of Faith

The first important spiritual principle to understand about the manifestation process is that our life experiences unfold based on our faith and mental focus. As creative spirit entities, we manifest realities based on our personal beliefs. Our beliefs are so powerful that they continually expand or limit our realities. Faith or belief is a creative force within each of us that drives the manifestation process.

This spiritual principle is confirmed in many ancient texts and spiritual teachings. In Christianity, for example, faith is a central concept. The Bible emphasises in numerous verses the importance of faith in manifesting miracles and bringing about desired results. For example, Jesus often performed miracles in response to people’s faith, such as healing the sick or raising the dead. Jesus also said that with enough faith a person could move a mountain.

In Buddhism, the influence of faith is frequently observed within the context of the mind’s role in shaping the world. The idea of “mindfulness” highlights the significance of one’s thoughts and beliefs in determining their experiences and perceptions of reality. According to the teachings of the Buddha, by transforming one’s mind, it is possible to overcome suffering and achieve enlightenment. Another example can be found in Hindu philosophy, where the concept of bhakti or devotion is emphasized. Devotees firmly believe that their loyalty and dedication to a deity can bring blessings, protection, and even liberation from the cycle of life and death. The Bhagavad Gita, a highly respected Hindu scripture, extensively discusses the power of faith and devotion.

It is prudent to channel your anger towards issues rather than individuals, and to dedicate your efforts towards finding solutions instead of making excuses. ~ William Arthur Ward

The Divine Source Of Abundance

The second important principle of manifestation is that we are all connected to an infinite and powerful source of abundance and benevolence that fulfils our desires. Known to us as God, Source, Spirit, the Divine, the Universe, it is a central concept in many spiritual and religious traditions. There is a limitless and omnipotent energy or higher power from which all things come and to which all things return.

As creators of our individual and collective realities, it is essential for us to establish a connection with an inexhaustible source of wealth or contentment. This source, whether universal or divine, is not bound by earthly limitations and possesses the power to profoundly change our lives and the world. By linking ourselves to this boundless wellspring of creativity, we amplify our ability to bring our desires into reality.

Numerous religious practices emphasize the significance of belief and giving up control in order to establish a connection with a higher power. When we let go of our own desires and have faith in the knowledge and kindness of the universe, we become receptive to receiving guidance, assistance, and abundance from an endless source. Aligning ourselves with this boundless source signifies a deep comprehension of the true nature of our existence and our role in it. It prompts us to recognize our innate ability to shape and collaborate in the creation process while acknowledging the inherent sanctity and interdependence of all life.

The Wisdom Of Anger

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Returning to the emotion of anger, it is crucial to avoid labeling it as “bad” since this hinders the process of manifestation. Anger is not inherently negative or positive. It is simply a vibration of energy. It exists without any inherent moral value. All energy present in the universe is inherently neutral. This neutrality implies that spiritual energy itself cannot be classified as either good or bad; it purely exists.

The way neutral energy appears in our lives depends on our intentions, thoughts, beliefs, and actions. When we have positive intentions and take positive actions, we create uplifting and beneficial experiences. Conversely, negative intentions and actions result in discordant and undesirable outcomes.

I am sure you have seen in your own situation that when you try to resist your anger, it only increases or finds a way to express itself in other ways. This can often manifest in addictions, relationship difficulties, violent behaviour and other self-destructive patterns. It is the outer manifestation of an inner reality. The dilemma here is not that anger is bad, but that the vibration of anger (and all the pain experiences we go through) will not go away until its purpose or higher truth is revealed and acknowledged.

When you feel anger, do not attempt to restrain, dismiss, or push it away. Instead, embrace it and inquire about the lessons it can teach you. This process is not based on reason or logic. For instance, at times when I experience anger, it may urge me to cry or scream loudly. However, when I address my pain, I consistently discover that it conveys a message. The message I often receive is that it signifies an aspect of my life where I am not aligned with the kindness of God. Typically, this is due to my lack of faith and confidence in God’s ability to fulfill my spiritually motivated aspirations.

Sometimes, the anger stems from previous experiences. It involves emotional distress linked to past connections. For instance, in my younger years, I faced certain financial difficulties. Consequently, when I feel anxious about money in the present, it often reminds me of those past challenges and suffering. My ego continuously holds onto a fear-based narrative, attempting to validate the belief that the Universal Source of Abundance cannot fulfill my financial requirements.

My ego attachment to this fear-based story from my past is not conducive to my God-given desires. In essence, if I choose to believe that my innate desires for financial prosperity are not good because they may never be fulfilled, then I am denying the reality that they are spirit given. I am out of alignment and trying to manifest with resistance and lack of awareness rather than trusting the flow with an abundance mindset. Until I align with the reality that there are enough resources to fulfil these desires, I will never find actual fulfilment.

If anger is ignored or dismissed, it will only slow down or prevent the achievement of your desires. It will turn into a harmful and negative force in your life. However, if you acknowledge and deal with your anger in a healthy manner, considering it as a message or indicator, rather than suppressing or neglecting it, you will realign yourself with what is best for you and gain the ability to bring your natural desires into reality.

Typically, individuals tend to be inactive when they feel sad. They simply shed tears, dwelling on their circumstances. However, when they become angry, they take action, leading to transformation ~ Malcolm X

Strategies For Expressing Anger

Some possible approaches for effectively communicating and dealing with anger in a positive and empowering manner are:

Acknowledge and affirm: Understand that it is acceptable to experience anger and acknowledge the truthfulness of your emotions. Avoid repressing or dismissing your emotions, as doing so can result in harboring bitterness and resentment within yourself.

Take a moment to stop and think: Prior to reacting hastily, pause for a while and contemplate on what caused your anger. Determine the hidden emotions and thoughts that are fueling your anger, as well as any recurring patterns or triggers that might be present.

Engage in mindfulness: Engage in various mindfulness practices like deep breathing, meditation, or progressive muscle relaxation to bring tranquility to your mind and body. Mindfulness enables you to observe your anger without feeling consumed by it and allows you to respond with greater expertise.

Engage in spiritual practices such as prayer, metta meditation, affirmations, rituals, or ceremonies to cultivate forgiveness, love, and inner peace. This may involve actions like lighting candles, burning sage or incense, or performing symbolic rituals to release anger and invite healing and peace. Repeat affirmations like “I let go of anger and welcome peace” or “I forgive myself and others for any harm done.” Utilize journaling as a means of self-exploration, healing, and personal growth.

Service and compassion: Instead of giving in to feelings of frustration and anger about injustices you encounter in the world, do something to help alleviate or change them. Engage in acts of service, compassion and activism to channel your anger into positive action and contribute to the greater good. Volunteer your time, skills or resources to help those in need and foster a sense of connection, purpose and spiritual fulfilment.

Express your anger in a assertive and respectful manner by using “I” statements to convey your feelings, needs, and boundaries. Refrain from blaming or criticizing others and instead emphasize constructive communication.

Establish limitations: Create explicit limitations that shield you from circumstances or actions that provoke your anger. Communicate these boundaries with assertiveness and consistency, and be ready to uphold them when required.

Engage in physical activity: Redirect your anger into activities like taking a walk, doing yoga, or using a punching bag. Physical activity aids in releasing built-up energy and stress, ultimately fostering relaxation and a feeling of well-being.

Creative outlets: Express your anger through creative outlets such as writing, drawing, painting or playing music. Creative expression can be a healthy and constructive way to process emotions and gain insight into your feelings.

Get help: Consult with close friends, family members, or a therapist to receive assistance and confirmation. Engaging in conversations about your emotions with a trusted individual can provide you with a different outlook and enable you to discover constructive methods to manage your anger.

“A person with a steady mind, unaffected by the threefold miseries or overly excited by happiness, and who is detached, fearless, and free from anger, is referred to as a sage.”

Next time you feel angry, remind yourself that the great spiritual teachers, such as Jesus and Buddha, have all taught us that holding onto anger only perpetuates suffering and separation. Instead, they advocated responding to anger with love, compassion and forgiveness, recognising the interconnectedness of all beings and the transformative power of empathy and understanding.

Jesus, although known for teachings of love, compassion, and forgiveness, did feel and display negative emotions such as anger or frustration. However, it is crucial to note that his anger was primarily aimed at unjust actions or behaviors, rather than individuals personally.

In the Gospels, there is a significant incident where Jesus purifies the temple. The story in Matthew 21:12-13 recounts Jesus’ actions as he enters the temple and removes the people engaged in buying and selling. He overturns the tables of the money changers and the benches of those selling doves. Jesus addresses them, saying, “It is written, ‘My house shall be called a house of prayer,’ but you are turning it into a hideout for thieves.”

In Buddhist tradition, Siddhartha Gautama, who later became known as the Buddha, experienced various human emotions before attaining enlightenment. While the Buddha’s teachings emphasize overcoming suffering, including anger, through the Noble Eightfold Path and the practice of mindfulness, there are accounts suggesting that he experienced anger prior to his enlightenment.

One such story involves an incident where the Buddha encountered a group of ascetics who criticized him and his followers. Initially, the Buddha felt anger rising within him, but he later reflected on the situation and responded with compassion and understanding. This event is often cited as an example of the Buddha’s ability to recognize and overcome anger through mindful awareness and insight.

Acknowledge, contemplate and channel anger constructively whenever it arises in your life. It has the potential for great wisdom and healing to manifest abundance and prosperity in your life.

The Significance of Anger in Attaining Your Goals

When we consider anger, we often associate it with negative feelings and harmful behavior. However, anger can actually be a valuable tool in reaching our goals and bringing about positive change in our lives. While it is important to handle and express anger in a healthy manner, tapping into its energy can propel us forward and assist us in overcoming obstacles. In this article, we will explore the importance of anger in achieving your desires and how to effectively channel it.

1. Motivation and Determination:
Anger can act as a catalyst for change by fueling our motivation and determination. When we feel angry about a situation or injustice, it ignites a passion within us to take action and make things right. This intense emotion can drive us to work harder, persist through challenges, and remain focused on our goals. Anger can serve as the driving force behind our determination to achieve our desires.

2. Establishing Boundaries:
Anger can also aid us in setting boundaries and asserting ourselves in various situations. When we feel angry, it often indicates that our values or personal boundaries have been violated. By recognizing and expressing our anger in a constructive manner, we communicate to others what is acceptable and what is not. This assertiveness is crucial in achieving our desires because it ensures that we are treated with respect and that our needs are met.

3. Overcoming Challenges:
In the pursuit of our desires, we are likely to face obstacles and setbacks along the way. Anger can be a powerful tool in helping us overcome these challenges. When confronted with an obstacle, anger can provide us with the energy and determination required to find alternative solutions, think creatively, and persist until we attain our desired outcome. It can assist us in pushing through adversity and maintaining a resilient mindset.

4. Self-Reflection and Growth:
Anger can also serve as a valuable tool for self-reflection and personal growth. When we experience anger, it presents an opportunity to examine the underlying reasons behind it. By exploring our anger, we can gain insights into our values, needs, and desires. This self-reflection enables us to make informed decisions and take actions that align with our true selves. Anger can be a catalyst for personal growth and self-improvement.

5. Advocacy and Social Change:
Throughout history, anger has played a significant role in advocating for social change and justice. Many movements and revolutions have been fueled by anger towards inequality, oppression, and injustice. By channeling anger into constructive actions such as peaceful protests, advocacy, or community organizing, individuals and communities can work towards achieving their desires for a fairer and more just society.

While anger can be a powerful tool, it is crucial to effectively manage it. Uncontrolled anger can lead to harmful behavior and damage relationships. To harness the power of anger in achieving your desires, consider the following tips:

1. Recognize and acknowledge your anger.
2. Take a step back and contemplate the underlying reasons for your anger.
3. Channel your anger into productive actions such as problem-solving or seeking support.
4. Practice healthy coping mechanisms like exercise, deep breathing, or talking to a trusted friend or therapist.
5. Use assertive communication to express your needs and establish boundaries effectively.